Mirror Image

Every morning we look at ourselves in the mirror preoccupied with haste and hurry, with dozens of thoughts running in our heads.

We take a quick inventory of how we look, or rather "Are we ready" to present ourselves to the world full of people and challenges. 
Seldom do we realise the first love of our life at this little encounter... The relationship between our soul, mind and body,our first commitment, our first responsibility.

This is the relationship we come across everyday when we look at the mirror. Most often we are too busy to pay attention. We don't bother to and it is taken for granted.
This ignorance or indifference causes a void in our personality, which we then fill up with other's opinions or performances. We give them the power to judge,thereby shifting our locus of control outside of ourselves. 

Lets try something different and very simple next time, - This time when we look at our mirror image, try gazing passionately in to the eyes and Say "I LOVE YOU, I ACCEPT YOU AND I AM PROUD OF YOU".

One may become aware of lots of feelings stored deep inside for ages. Some of these feelings hold the key to our awareness and growth. As we slowly become aware and heal these issues, we feel the love of the creator glowing bright inside us, guiding us on our path.

Loving ourselves helps in loving others around us and thus creating peace and harmony.
The external environment, the world and the incidents remains the same but our perception transforms. We are now at peace with ourselves and with our situations.
WE ARE IN LOVE 

Love

Why should we give space to our loved ones!

Love is a beautiful word, just by its mention,we start feeling better and we start associating with many people and situations we have deep connection with.When we say I Love You to someone,we surrender to the person in some way or the other.It remains beautiful till here, the problem starts when we expect the same surrender from the other person,now we start EXPECTING.

What is wrong with expectation?
Now we have given the power to the other person ,so he decides how we should feel.We become dependant and finally possessiveness, ego,sacrifice lot of other evils pop up, and the worst thing is that this is happening on both sides, in nearly equal proportions, so one day comes when we have only conflicts and no love left.

How much you love me has become synonymous with How much can you change for me.( Will you quit smoking after marriage?Will you stop working when we have this child?I have sacrificed all my happiness for you so you should marry the girl of my choice?)

We start compromising even while we feel terrible inside because we expect that our sacrifice would prompt the other person to change or deviate from his regular behaviour.And if we do not see the expected results, we get disappointed.sometimes people even go to the extent of.. "I have done this much for you, what have you done for me?"...well the person never asked you to do the sacrifice in the first place.. and even if he did, u always have the freedom to say No.
Expecting the other person to change or deviate from the normal behaviour is the root of all conflicts, starting from small fights to permanent separation.

So think again, why are you trying to change each other.We always have to remember one very important message, we as human beings do not have the right to override any one's free will, that goes to say, we cant change anyone not till the person volunteers for it. And when there is a real wish to change, smallest of things can change the person.

What is so difficult about accepting people as they are...lets give it a thought..imagine a beautiful relationship, where each one could be themselves,had rights to opinion,freedom to express, follow their heart, here in this relationship,immense love would flow.. there is no doubt .The reason is unconditional acceptance..unconditional love ...and nearly no expectation.

Again do not compare your relationship against any benchmark, nature did not make any.Just like you are unique.. your relationship and love for others is also unique.

Let us not go by the rules and regulations made by the society we live in because we are all different and there cannot be one rule which keeps all of us in consideration, make your own benchmarks and only for you.. not for the other person whom you love.

Love is to be free and set free ...

So fly high and enjoy this beautiful emotion in every relationship you share...

Love.....